Counseling journal 6-16-2015
Guess what! I learned i do not have to try and fix everyone else!
Now if i can just keep working on fixing me.
Accepting and having compassion for someones situation or problems in the world is not the same as complacency, but sometimes right action is actually to take no action.
What actually helps, and what simply enables?
“Who am i to stand in the way of you learning your lessons in life”
When David Reel said that to me long ago i felt hurt. Now i recognize it for what it was, he was not talking on my problems or fixing me, he was allowing me to learn to overcome and become more independent and strong.
Ask myself, is my heart open or closed? Am i feeling true compassion or just avoiding that which makes me uncomfortable, or a blend of both?
Enabling others often or always is selfish and or narcissistic at the core.
Either 1). You dont want to feel the emotions of not enabling such as guilt or not being “enough”,
Or 2). Wanting to avoid conflict because it makes me uncomfortable
Today, thinking about someone I have known for years who is homeless and suffering from voices in his head, i wanted to help him somehow. I sat and talked with him for awhile, but stopped myself from offering him to come sleep in our yard instead of on the sidewalk. Up came a realization that thinking about helping this disconnected man led to fear of getting involved, knowing it would lead to stress for myself and sis. History gave me a feeling of mistrust, and knowing in advance that situation would overwhelm me.
And it could be dangerous.
Sometimes it can be so difficult to know what right action to take.